What Is It About Women and Attention?

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Jack i may be incorrect but she should have known what she was getting into. You had all ready written and published a book by the time you all
meet. If she loves you she should stick it out while it's rough not just when it's all gravy.

[Officially Retired]

im actually having sum issues w/my wife as well.i just got hired on w/the utility company n we work ALOT of o.t. 14-16 hr days sum times n its hard to do family stuff when i am home cuz i am so damn tired.my wife gets very upset so we're trying to work it out.so far so good,but its very hard.then u add kids,n dogs to mix n it just makes things so much harded.good luck Jack hope it works out for u.

I am sorry to hear you are going through something similar.

A man only has so much time to give, and so much he can do, and the reality is ... sometimes a man has to "go under" (and work his ass off) in order that he may "cross over" and put himself in a position where he no longer has to work. And a woman has to understand that IMO.




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Jack i may be incorrect but she should have known what she was getting into. You had all ready written and published a book by the time you all
meet. If she loves you she should stick it out while it's rough not just when it's all gravy.

Well, when we first met, my books were done and I had a lot of extra money, so we pretty much just went out all the time and enjoyed ourselves. Then she decided she needed to work, and do something with her own life, and meanwhile the economy has been pretty hard on most folks. So sometimes you gotta go back to work to get yourself back into a real good spot again.

Part of me feels exactly like what you're describing, it's not all going to be a bed of roses and who needs a "fair weather friend" ... but part of me also feels really bad about some of the deeper issues, and really wants to help as best I can. I just think there's an unfillable void there, and I can't do what I need to do and give her the attention she wants. So some tough choices need to be made.

She also has her own needs to grow as a person and artist, and she feels the art community in the city is going to open more doors for her, and she is probably right about that. Again, tough choices. It's not just a matter of staying true to myself, if I really love her I have to be willing to let her do what she feels is best for her own goals and career.

I don't want to compromise my own goals ... and I don't want to be troubled with arguments and emotional chaos all the time ... nor do I want to be mad or bitter at her decisions to leave either. Ultimately, I think it's just better to let someone do what their heart tells them to do, and just wish them well with the path they have chosen. Because I sincerely do wish her well, and I sincerely do hope she achieves her goals.

I just would have preferred that we both be able to do accomplish our goals together, but if that's not the way it works out, it is better to accomplish the things you really want to, alone, than not at all. Things may work out again later ... and there are also other women who might be more in tuned with my lifestyle out in the country ... and she may very well meet another man who gives her the undivided attention she needs.

Only time will tell,

Jack