Having these dogs when you're married can cause a huge pain for the spouse (if she's not into the dogs much). Anybody have any stories on how they "converted" their wives over to the love of these dogs? Or is your wife/girlfriend just as into these dogs as you are? This should be interesting!!
i would suggest going to some conformation shows. Espicially if you have kids get them involed and if they enjoy it the ole lady will also. Tell her once or twice a week that you would like her to go with you while your walking one a mile or so. Basicly involve her with the dogs a little but dont make her your kennel partner
My situation was actually the opposite, my woman is the dogger. I had no idea when we started dating she had pitbulls (I'm ashamed now to say I thought the ugly blue hippos was what she was talking about the first time she told me she had some). If any of you have seen SoCoLime you know she would be the last woman you'd expect to be into dogs. I was fine with it until we started living together because you don't realize how much of your life revolves around the dogs until you are with them 24/7. Her dogs almost broke us up several times until three things happened ...... 1. I realized i wish i had a fraction of the passion for anything that she has for her dogs 2. We compromised on how many she had at one time and how we kept them and 3. I took the time to investigate and take an interest while she has taken time to share information and explain pedigrees and such
I found the more she explained and the more I learned on my own the more I enjoyed it. Now it has become something we can share, we lay in bed at night looking at peds and old sporting dog journals, we work the dogs together, and discuss strategy of future breeding. My advice to anyone is to try and share your passion for these dogs with your spouse. I know it wont be the dogs being kicked to the curb it'll be the human that goes every time.
I tried and tried to get my wife involved into these hounds and went about it at every angle and nothing worked. I guess u have to lay the law down be4 anything gets serious cause my relationship is ending as we speak. I'll never leave these hounds and they will never leave me
When I was in my 20s and 30s, I was pretty much partying in my spare time, and I quickly clashed with every single girl I dated over the dogs. It was my way or the highway with most things, and few women can take being "second" to anything, let alone a bunch of combat dogs.
I got hooked with a young, blonde vet tech when I was in my early 30s, and I really thought she was going to be "the one" ... and I put forth a lot of effort into the relationship ... but eventually even she couldn't take being "second" to a bunch of damned dogs either and split. After that last heartbreak, I said no more, and I went through a period of about 10 years where I stayed alone, and only with my dogs, because I was sick of the endless hassle that dogs and relationships tended to bring. The way I looked at it, dogs always stay happy and loyal, while women seldom do. I didn't have to "explain myself" to any dog, I could do what I wanted without incident, and no matter what happened the dogs were always in my corner. As the old joke goes, "Unlike a woman, the later you come home at night the happier your dog is to see you."
However, after trimming the volume of dogs I had down from 80 to a more sane 7 animals a few years ago, I wound up getting into a relationship again, and this time I have slowed down (and am mature enough) to actually consider another person's wishes than my own---although it wouldn't be possible to have a relationship if I got too much bullshit over the dogs. Sure, Tina and I have had an argument or two over the dogs, but for the most part it's been smooth-sailing. If anything, Tina can't stand it when I sell any of our pups, because she doesn't think anyone is going to care for them at the same level she and I do. She actually helps me with everything I do, rather than hinder me, so it has been pretty nice for going on 3 years now.
Juggling the dogs and a woman, in a serious relationship, is never easy. The dogs take so much time and devotion to care for properly, that unless your woman is really behind you (and at least loves the dogs, not necessarily the sport), she won't be able to take "being second" to the dogs. No woman can. So unless she shares your love for the dogs to some degree like you do, sooner or later one or the other (the dogs or the girl) has got to go.
However, if you're lucky enough to land a good woman, who's really behind what you're doing, it makes everything you do a thousand times better than if you're doing it alone.
Jack
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for me they are everything( exception my kids) and have been for the last 20 odd yrs though I must say my husband was the one who introduced me to them and I have been smitten ever since some times I think he wishes he had never cuz I done gone crazy lol so some people think
divorseOriginally Posted by Dre21
Hats off to a 20 year dogwoman!
Not many of those around :ugeek:
Easy come, easy go! A woman will go, before the dogs will. It's just that simple. Like the song goes, "99 problems, but a ***** aint one."
I saw the STP yard video when he was selling Bad Rosemary and I remember his wife saying "I don't get involved with them." I though "WOW, must be nice!!"
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