Make a handle to help your dog..or make a handle to end the contest..it's usually one of these choice.
The guy with the advantage don't have to initiate the handle if he doesn't want to. If the down dog is getting killed, his handler better initiate the handle, cause the other guy ain't gonna help him out. Thats just common sense.
You're right YVK, a ref will give you a warning for trying to make a handle when they're still in hold than not trying to handle.
In 19 years, I've never heard of anyone even get a warning for not trying to make a handle.